Monday, 29 December 2008


Are you ready for change and growth? Change is inevitable and growth is enlightening. Are you ready for the new?

Have you made space inside and around you? Have you prepared the emptiness within your being and in your surrounding circumstance, which is an outer reflection of your interiority? Have you created a womb for the birth of new life?

If not, you are perhaps not ready for the wonder of a new day or a new moment. That would be a pity because life is synonymous with newness and you would be missing it.

Perhaps your house is so cluttered that you don’t know where to start to clean it out. Maybe you have become addicted to the lethargy of disorder or the false comfort of too much stuff. Maybe the mess immobilises rather than motivates you.

I am prone to extreme irritation when my inner and outer spaces are disorganised. Cleanliness and clarity become my priority and, albeit often through gritted teeth and with much cussing at first, I get my landscapes swept to mint minimalism. Then inspiration can blow through a fresh flute.

Are you resisting life by hoarding remnants of the past? Are you rejecting joy by holding on to memory? Is your life crying out for a clean?

Readiness is presence, plus the processing and eliminating of anything that is obstructing it.

Wednesday, 24 December 2008


Have you ever become aware of all the voices within you? Most of them speak subconsciously and most of them are not yours.

Because we live mostly in our heads, and because our heads are full of what has been given to us from the outside, we are swamped by the voices of other people. Who we think of as ourselves is just that, who we think. It is not who we are.

The voices in our heads are wall to wall, a thick fabric woven of the things we have heard, going round and round incessantly in our minds. I noticed one just now while watering the garden, the voice of my father about the harmful effects of the sun.

When I was younger, I rejected that voice, now I hear it as if it is my own. In both cases, it was his voice, in fact not even that. It was one he had picked up and repeated. I had to be really conscious to see all this.

We live unconsciously by the voices of others, voices that were not even theirs and not even spoken the way we heard them. Voices of fearful parents and dictatorial teachers and shoot-from-the-hip peers, sometimes decades old, rule our lives. It can be difficult, virtually impossible sometimes, to turn them off.

Deep inside us, though, is our own true voice. It is an inner voice, not spoken and not thought. It is felt, sometimes softly, especially at first. Our relationship with it is one of the most important we can develop. So tune in and listen...

Your inner voice is the only one that is you, the only one that matters.

Monday, 22 December 2008


I am a hypocrite. I cannot help it, no one can. If you are alive and able to speak, you are bound to contradict yourself.

So please accept me for who I am and do not confuse me with the message. One teaches what one needs most to learn and that is how and why I am writing this, to learn what I need to.

I have come to these words by not living them. The experience behind being disposed to putting them down is the soil from which they grow. As I discover the new, as my awareness increases, I reach a little beyond and write the insights out, which takes me that bit closer, too. Equally, as soon as I write something, I violate it.

If someone does what I feel is offensive, it is just a matter of time before I see myself doing it. The more upset I get about them, the more jarring is my realisation about myself. If I try to simply let the perceived injustice be what it is, I feel unresolved, and if I speak out about it, it resolves by being reflected back at me.

All of which encourages me to reserve judgement, be real, and have a sense of humour. It encourages me to be conscious of how life works, of who I am not and, most important, who I am.

Self-acceptance and understanding bring with them a transcendence of the self.

Friday, 19 December 2008


Forget about improving yourself. Forget about learning more, gaining knowledge and getting better. Drop it all.

It’s all more of the same. It’s the same dysfunctional assumption that there is something deficient in you that needs to be fixed or filled. It’s the same insatiable hunger for solutions on the outside. It’s the same turning to so-called experts and renunciation of responsibility for your own being. It is in the interests of others and it is hidden everywhere!

Just be who you are, that is complete. From there you will grow but it will have a totally different feel and quality to it than trying to improve all the time. One is an insatiable inadequacy, a subtle and self-perpetuating self-loathing, and the other is a fullness flourishing.

Part of making the shift is to accept yourself as you are. Fundamental, also, is distinguishing between thinking and presence.

Thinking always wants more. It chews on knowledge, what has been put into it. Your incessant thinking is not you. It occupies itself constantly with trying to gain and improve so that you can remain identified with it and keep it alive and dominant.

Presence is whole. It is made up of awareness, timeless consciousness. It is you, the real you. It has no need to gain or improve yet it is being fed from the infinite. When you are present, you are one with the infinite.

Presence has the innate impulse to progress, which is an inside out evolution that you can experience, watch and enjoy.

Wednesday, 17 December 2008


Empathy is a sign of maturity. It is only when you have lived that you can sit with someone and their living.

Happiness flits along on the horizontal plane. Delightful as it is, it has little depth. People who are happy all the time are generally superficial, talking rubbish, drinking and partying all and every day. Which is all very well, but it is not true living.

Anyone with depth is going to encounter the vertical. They are going to experience the great sadness, they are going to question deeply. If they are in search of the truth, they are going to reach the depths of despair. All the constructs are going to betray and forsake them.

In these dark times, they are going to break through to new light. In times of intense grief, they are going to let go of their urge to control, and find themselves. In the extremes they encounter by pushing too far, they are going to realise where their home is.

When they meet someone on the road who is struggling with life, they are going to recognise in the other what they have found in themselves. Not only will this bring resonance and comfort in a place in which they felt they were alone, it will bring presence to the other, too. Empathy will connect them.

This is communion. A person has plunged to their depths and in time sat with someone else in theirs. There is a silent, spiritual union, a healing, a realisation.

To simply sit with someone in empathy is one of the greatest mutual gifts in life.

Tuesday, 16 December 2008


Comparing is one of the diseases of humanity, a symptom of mind-based living and part of the collective misery we are slowly finding our way out of.

If I look at myself, I am who I am. It is perfect. I do my thing, I enjoy it and people get something from it. Everything is good and the way it should be.

From this place of centredness and acceptance I look at others and I see them doing the same. They are being themselves and I am benefiting from it. The more they are ‘successful’, the happier I am because their success is all part of mine. We are in this together, each unique. Success breeds more success.

If, however, I compare myself, I immediately feel disconnected, and insecurity is hot on its heels. Others suddenly look better than me and my urge is to copy them to try to measure up. I also feel resentful and envious, clawing at what they have but unable to attain it, like in a dream where something is just beyond my grasp. Awful!

In this space, their success is my enemy. I do not wish it on them at all, and I cannot achieve it myself. I am trying to be someone I am not, which is futile, and I want them to fail so that I can feel better about myself. The world is heading in a negative direction for all of us and my interiority is simply hell.

When I get back to myself, suddenly success is already here. I am me, meant to be, thriving and creating freely. Everyone else is free to do the same with my fervent blessing, and success is all around, unbounded.

Drop comparing and replace competing with celebrating.

Monday, 15 December 2008


There is a red rose on a bush outside my window, long-stemmed and radiant. Consider for a moment that it is not a rose.

Consider it without its name. We are taught the names of things from birth so relentlessly that, at a point in our early development, everything takes solid form under the intoxicating symbolism of the word attributed to it. The mystery coagulates into matter and is, from that moment on, demystified.

The wonder in a child’s eyes disappears when their consciousness surrenders to the limited world view of the adults around them pummeling their presence with names for everything. The marvelous with which they were one is suddenly just a word that is separate from them. The inexpressibly amazing is suddenly a ‘rose’ that is ‘red’, which is ‘beautiful’, and the once conscious human is now stuck in their head.

Have you ever watched a sunset and let it not be a sunset? Have you ever seen an animal in the wild and let it not be beautiful? Have you ever looked at a rose and let it not be red? To do this, you need to not be there. You and the names need not to be there.

Have you ever looked at a person, your lover or your friend or your parent, or your child, and let them not be their name? Have you ever just let someone be who they really are?

The rose outside here is the height of my eyes. I walked up to it and gazed in to its flowering depth. I closed my eyes and sank my nose into its softness and sucked in its scent, which came from and sucked me into eternity. I didn’t stop to smell the rose, I became it.

For a moment, the flower and I were one. I deliberately looked at it without mind, without naming it or thinking. I left the past out of the encounter and the present took over. I had no words for the experience.

If you can see names for what they are and then see past them, you will begin to really see and really be.

Sunday, 14 December 2008


I turned forty last month. Without wanting to be prescriptive, I was aware that, however short my time so far may seem, I may be past half way. I may not, but either way, the insight was deep.

My father died earlier this year at the age of sixty eight. He had been looking unwell, like he had aged suddenly, then he spent a couple of months in hospital and was gone.

There are illnesses that can take us out, quickly and without warning. Being alive is an act of universal grace. Being with my dad as he died, and turning forty have brought this awareness closer. Surrendering to death relives me of tension and fear and lets the graciousness of life reveal itself.

What moved me more, perhaps, than my own birthday was being with close friends for theirs. I could see them clearer, in a way, than I could myself. Here they were, now forty, after us being fifteen and ten and twenty one and thirty together. This is what they looked like, this is what they had done and seen, this is who they had in their lives. This was how I felt about them and about being alive.

This morning I am tired. I had a wonderful evening of dinner and togetherness and just four hours sleep. I do not have excess energy, I am relaxed and still. It feels, in a way, like getting older.

My urge to push is waning. My outer self is increasingly transparent. Gently, it is fading, which is quite magnificent. I am not resisting, I am enjoying it. My inner self is easier to see. The part of me I came to life to discover, the true me, is maturing.

Real power is not in fighting and force, it is in presence. The outer self struggles for strength on the superficial level but as that softens, the real self can shine through.

As my form progresses through the journey of life, it is finding my formlessness and the bliss of being.

Friday, 12 December 2008


When you are being yourself or a living, how can you take holidays?

How can you take a holiday from being yourself? The more you get away from things, the more who you are reveals itself! You can suspend effort and consciously not work but that is simply another kind of work and the insights it brings are all part of the process.

Rest from one kind of work is simply work of another kind. And when you are being yourself for a living, you are always working and never working. The distinction falls away, as does the customary set of assumptions about how life works.

How we see the world is almost entirely how we have been conditioned to see it. Difficult as it may be at first to grasp, we are not being ourselves much at all. We are living in a consciousness created by others, a consciousness that is so deeply entrenched that we consider it our own.

The call to drop that and be ourselves no matter what, is a breakthrough. So is the decision to go for it. On the journey, constructs and falsities tumble away as we realise the truth for ourselves.

Work has been conditioned into us in the interests of others. Holidays are those little treats we are thrown now and then to keep us grateful slaves. Every day is really a holy day and every day we are really free.

Claim your freedom and live the new way.

Thursday, 11 December 2008


Emptiness is the most beautiful thing. Almost the entire universe is empty. It hovers still as it rushes to infinity and back. Emptiness is the stuff of all creation.

Yet most people are terrified of it. The place where it scares us most is inside ourselves. Just as the universe is filled with nothingness, so is our inner world. Yet there is no need to fear it because that emptiness is full.

How can we be afraid of our nature, the essence of all being? Because we do not know it. We think of ourselves in limited terms and cling to these for dear life, which largely and ironically eludes as a result.

It is like a drop of water being afraid of the ocean. It is clutching at being separate, to a disconnected sense of self. If it just surrenders that self, it realises that it is already part of the whole. There is nothing to fear.

Instead, though, to cover up the hollowness we feel inside, we look for ourselves on the outside. We try to fill the perceived hole with stuff, like money, possessions, power, position, respectability, achievement, and even spirituality. What we think of as love is just that, thought, which we use to plug the gap.

Of course, no amount of filling can even touch sides because the emptiness has no sides. Plus, whatever we try to fill it with is empty, too! Eventually, we have to just let go and become one with it.

When you allow yourself to drown into nothingness, it fills you with the eternal.

Wednesday, 10 December 2008


Intelligence is not intellectual. It is not the ability to score highly on an IQ test. It is not synonymous with thinking capacity.

Intelligence is not political. It is not the ability to discern what behaviours, if adopted strategically, will result in the greatest personal gain. It is not synonymous with popularity.

Intelligence is not cunning. It is not the ability to outsmart others and pre-empt their tactical moves with shrewder offense. It is not synonymous with winning.

Intelligence is not what they teach you. It is not the ability to absorb what other people have already thought, said and done. It is not synonymous with acquisition.

Intelligence is freedom from knowledge, conditioning and the mind.

Intelligence is innocence, simplicity and childlike joy.

Intelligence is honesty and authenticity.

Intelligence is presence and spontaneity.

Intelligence happens when the source of all form, the formless, can manifest through you uninhibited.

Monday, 8 December 2008


There are all kinds of personal identity.

You can identify with something macroscopic, like a continent, and see yourself as African or European. Slightly smaller is the national identity where you feel you are American, English and the like.

Or you can see your identity as transcending borders but linked to your race, religion or social position. You can identify with a culture or you can come from a certain city and be identified with that.

You can identify with a sports team, a family, a social movement, an organisation or a job title. Closer even to home, you can identify with your name, your body, your personality or your sexual orientation. Of course, you can identify yourself as a man or a woman.

All identities, though, are false. Whether collective or individual, identities are all a form of ego. All identities are not really you.

Because we live in a world dominated by mind, we identify with constructs of the mind. We have got entirely lost in them, in the absence of knowing who we really are.

All identities are superficial and limit us to shallow understanding of ourselves and one-dimensional interaction with others, which will ultimately be conflictual. Identifying the self includes identifying the other as separate and different.

If we are identified with anything, we will defend it and be susceptible to challenge by people with other identities. We will then, in extreme cases, kill or die for things that are neither us nor real.

You are simply presence. If you experience yourself as such, you find freedom.

Friday, 5 December 2008


Try a little gentleness. It can be a simple technique, a meditation to keep you present.

Presence is the ultimate in being OK. Everything is perfect in the now. If something needs changing, you change it. If you can’t, you accept it. Either way, you are at peace.

When you are present, you are love. You are alert, calm inspiration. You are not resisting, pushing or pulling. So you are gentle.

Whatever you touch with your presence is touched gently. There is no tension or aggression. You hardly leave a mark, yet something profound happens. The intensity of your presence spreads.

There is so much tension in the body, gathered throughout life and seldom released. It is easy to stay stuck in it, always unsettled, struggling, grinding your jaw. It’s exhausting and destructive.

The moment creates a gap in that, a window of stillness. You can stay in that stillness where everything else is outside you. There may be a storm but you are safely at home.

You move with grace, enjoy the view of the swaying trees and the scent of rain. You feel the thrill of change but inside there is a haven. Your inner room is filled with empty, silent space.

Gentleness can open that gap, bring in the stillness and take you home to yourself.

Thursday, 4 December 2008


Be careful of hope. Be careful of it in yourself and be careful of someone selling it to you.

Hope is for the future, a better one than the present, which takes your attention out of the now. It puts you in an unpleasant place and keeps you there, always hankering for better.

You may feel that life is problematic now and so hope keeps you going, which makes logical sense. But you are missing the depth of the moment.

The moment is always all there is. If you see the now as anything but complete and ideal, you are missing it. Then you will look ahead, but there is nothing there. You will miss that too.

Look at the now. If you are unhappy or afraid, sit with that until it subsides and the eternal beneath it becomes clear to you. Then you will not anticipate.

Someone selling you hope, like a politician or a religious head, is manipulating you for their gain. Their story also seems to make sense on the surface but it is skin deep.

They are capitalising on your discontent, promising something better if you vote for them or support their religious authority over you. A better country, an afterlife... through them.

Both are lies. Hope is a big con. Anyone selling it to you is keeping you weak and in their clutches, sweet and sincere as their presentation may seem.

When you find yourself in the here and now, you do not need hope. You see that it is highly dangerous and simply absurd.

Be happy not hopeful!

Tuesday, 2 December 2008


The unconscious self believes that worry is justified. Whatever it is worried about seems a legitimate concern.

The more it worries, the bigger the problems get and the more appropriate the worry seems. What it can’t see is that it, the unconscious self, is also getting bigger.

That is what worry is actually about: building up the false identity. Worry is a form of fear and the ego is fear-based.

The false self is made up of negativity. It feeds on it. It is a parasite that lives on remembering, focusing on and anticipating pain and problems.

It is very cunning, which is one of the reasons we get lost in it and find it so difficult to shake off. One of the ways it continually hooks us is by giving us reasons to live, in the form of problems.

Without worry, we may wonder if we are actually alive. The way we have been raised to live is so interwoven with having troubles to chew on that freedom feels quite disconcerting at first.

Who am I without my worries? Who is left when my problems have disappeared?

The true self! Peaceful and alert. Calm and inspired. Free to create and happy to just be.

Happiness is a merging with the whole, a dissolution of the ‘self’, which takes getting used to. At first it can feel like an absence with strong urges to re-attach to the ego.

The deeper you sink into its presence, though, the more powerful it becomes.

Friday, 28 November 2008

Back to you

I have had many teachers in my time. There have been people whose books I have read and reread over periods of years, learning more and more deeply from them as I integrate the teaching.

In the end, though, I come back to myself. There is actually danger in being too indentified with someone else’s message, whoever they may be and whatever they may say.

We each need to live our own truth. So, ultimately, although a teacher may have shown us much of the way for a time, we have to get past that teacher to walk it.

I can feel when something I am learning and loving starts to stretch me away from myself. It starts to feel strained and remote, like there is just so much of it take in.

That’s the time to get back to myself. If the teaching is of value, I will have internalised it. But I needn’t become it.

I need only be me. Coming home to that restores my inner peace. The answers are within and they are simple.

Your being is inherently intelligent.

Wednesday, 26 November 2008


The quickest way to be unhappy, to create inner turmoil and stress, is to live with expectations. They create a split between where you want to be and where you are.

Joy is here and now. Everything we need is in the present. Our true selves are synonymous with presence.

Expectations arise in the mind and stem from a separation from our true nature. The mind is never happy with what is and always wants more, thinking that it will bring fulfilment.

The lack of fulfilment came from leaving the moment and great expectations, although they may give flashes of excitement, bring great discord. The pursuit of meeting them brings great suffering.

I have spend years with a constant, subliminal companion, a sense of tension and anxiety, a fear based subtle anguish. I feel it in my body and just beneath.

It is simply a gap between my true self and my mind, between the now and my expectations. Lately, I have been aware of it and bringing myself back to presence.

I simply let go of expectation and the consciousness, the unconsciousness that comes with it. Here now. Now.

With the release of expectation comes the release of tension and a return to what it's all about.

When you stop squeezing it, the moment opens to fill your life.

Saturday, 22 November 2008

Give it up

What do you give up to earn a living? If there is something, it may be well be holding you back.

It’s easy to justify giving up something in exchange for income, it’s still the norm. It’s still the way most people think. In the name of reality, they keep doing it, even defending it.

But is it what you want? Do you want to give up part of your life to support yourself? Does that make any sense? Is it necessary? Is it the best approach in our times? Are you perhaps being nudged to re-evaluate?

Sometimes it’s not the conscious choice to do what you love for a living that leads to change, it’s a creeping up of circumstantial pressure. You keep doing things the old way and they just don’t work anymore.

Business is just not happening. Clients aren’t coming and people aren’t buying. Your strategy isn’t taking hold. The more you work, the less it works.

Then, after resisting to the bitter end, and then some, you start to surrender to new insight. You start to consider... doing what you love! And, because you have nothing left to lose, you take the risk.

And it works!

So, whatever you are giving up to earn a living, give it up. Then you can begin to be yourself.

Wednesday, 19 November 2008


One of the fundamentals of life has been taken from us. We can get it back.

Inherent in our oneness with the whole is complete trust. Our separateness is an illusion and we do not really die, so what is there to fear?

That trust has been eroded, though, because our sense of oneness has been severed. We have become identified with the superficial, lost in mind and the ego, which brings with it inherent fear.

Most things around us - the language of the world; egoic relationships; religious, political, social and economic institutions – reinforce a sense of separateness. We are surrounded by constant messages of subconscious threat.

All it takes to re-establish trust, though, is presence. You don’t have to fight or insure or deceive, you just have to be, fully be. Then the illusion of time and separation subside and your spirit steps forward.

Your dominant awareness shifts gently yet powerfully from ‘out there’ to ‘in here’. Your timeless nature takes precedent and worldliness takes it rightful place as a secondary experience.

It becomes fascinating, playful, experientially rich and growth filled. But it is not the dominant you and you are not lost in it. You are in tune with who you really are.

And there, or more precisely, here and now, you are filled again with trust. You begin to see how much subliminal fear you have been carrying around as it subsides.

Beneath the fear there is eternity, holding you eternally in its hands. You are free with no need to worry.

Presence and trust are one and the same. Now, you can truly live.

Wednesday, 12 November 2008

Perfect sleep

This morning, I am up with the birds... There is nothing like it!

The air is fresh and crisp and I feel vital. I got to bed late last night, after an afternoon and evening of meetings, workshops and networking followed by writing back at my home office. But I woke up at sunrise.

Yesterday it was a rainy morning and I woke up at 9.30am... There is nothing like it!

Apart from sleeping in when everyone else was wishing they could, I got about nine hours of sound sleep, which I needed, and felt superb. You know what it's like when you have an inner reservoir filled with rightful rest?

This morning I feel a little tired still and so I will probably sleep some more today sometime. Often I am up early, do some writing and then go to bed again for a while. Often I have a short sleep in the afternoon.

I have no rules or routines, I flow with my feeling... There is nothing like it!

I almost never use an alarm. I wake up naturally (if the neighbour's dogs are gracious enough to oblige - little bastards) and allow my body to manage itself. I ease into the day because that's what works for me.

I usually lie in for a while, waking up and reflecting meditatively. I often have much to process after my night's sleep, so I do that. Usually I read something spiritual before I get up.

Other people jump up and get going immediately. We are all unique and we each need to do what is right for us. We need to be in tune and to trust our own rhythms and ways.

Listening to our bodies and living in line with our own inner knowing is vital.

There is nothing like it!

Thursday, 6 November 2008

Here or going somewhere?

Where are you? Are you in your head or are you in this moment?

You can tell that you are in your head when you are going somewhere. Your thinking is in the future. Your attention is on where you want to be. Your awareness is not here now.

This moment to you is then a means to an end, not the end in itself. Everything you do now is to bring something about, which means you are fighting with the way things are. You are fighting with life.

You cannot be truly alive if this moment is a means to an end. You will be frustrated, irritated. “Come on!” you will be saying to life, “let’s get there.” That is your mind speaking, taking you nowhere.

The mind is never happy where you are. The mind is never where you are and the mind is never happy. The mind always wants more.

Happiness is accepting where you are, accessing your being beyond the mind.

What I do when I find that I have left the moment is I gently bring myself back to it. Like, when I find myself shouting in traffic, I laugh at myself.

I bring myself back to the now and notice all that is happening in it, without judgement. I just look... at the movement of the trees, the richness of the colours, the vastness of the sky. I smell the interior of the car, hear the music playing.

It's like being a child again where everything is psychedelic and wonderful. It's not a big thing, a challenge or a chore, just another gentle reminder to come back to the moment, which steadily opens the present more each time.

Stop right now and look around the room. Just look, like you are doing so for the first time. Look at the stillness with which things are here, notice the movement of others, hear the sounds. Feel the energy of the now.

This moment is all there is and if you are fully present, you merge with life.

Wednesday, 5 November 2008

Feelings, facts and freedom

We all struggle with feeling caught between knowing that there is a better way and feeling powerless to bring it about.

We all know the feeling of frustration with how the world works and the feeling of anger followed by hopelessness when we try to make change. We know how it feels to be rejected and ostracised by our community when we speak out.

We all know how it feels, bit by bit and day by day, to give up our insight and intelligence and, along with it, our ability to be fully alive.

The fact is that there are subversive forces in society that keep us stupid. They do not serve us as people or as a species and they do not serve the earth or life itself. They are a collective unconsciousness.

One could source them in sinister circles of power hungry people who serve only the ‘elite’ but still they are simply unconsciousness. The solution is not a war on them but a healing of the whole. The healing comes with waking up.

The healing is from seeing the truth as it is. When you do that, you are set free and you can simply change what is not right, what is not working.

When you are upset – feeling angry and powerless and hopeless – you are feeding your enslavement. You are right but you are stuck.

But when you are simply aware and awake, clear with consciousness, the truth can work through you. You are not attached to change so you are not vulnerable to defeat. You are powerful.

You are powerful because you are not you, you are the whole. You have lost your sense of separateness, which is what kept you powerless and caught in pain.

You are one with the facts, with truth, and thus able to stop being stupid. When you get past the feelings, you become intelligence, the force of true freedom.

Tuesday, 4 November 2008

Being not becoming

There is a simple yet fundamental distinction to make in life that determines how you live. Seeing the distinction leads to a simple choice, made with consciousness.

The distinction is between being and becoming.

We have been sold the lifestyle and mindset of becoming. It seems to make sense – realising your potential, being your best etc. – but it is a big con. It has been sold to us by people wanting to cleverly manipulate and control others for their subversive hunger for power.

The result is collective unconsciousness, subtle slavery and cycles of violence.

If you are into becoming, you are not happy with who and where you are. You are out of touch with yourself and out of the moment. You are lost. And, as such, you are weak and open to the influence of people offering guidance and hope, religious, political or otherwise.

So becoming is part of not being, the root of the current human condition and all the problems in the world. We are looking for ourselves outside somewhere. We are unaware of our inner split.

What we are looking for cannot be found, so we are being sold down the river, with our consent.

We need simply to wake up from the hypnosis being perpetuated by the media and other agents of collective unconsciousness, like schooling and social conditioning. We need to become aware of the mechanisms of becoming.

Then the most profound yet simple insight liberates us: we already are. Whatever we seek is within us. We need not seek it because it is already here. Seeking is lost, being is found.

Find your being. Allow consciousness and presence to take over your life. Let go of becoming in all its forms.

Everything is here and now. You are the truth. Wake up to it.

Monday, 3 November 2008

Being paid for what comes naturally

It’s easy to negotiate for more money when you are trading what you resent doing for getting paid. The difficulty comes when you begin to do what you love for a living.

If you dislike what you do, trading money for it makes sense. This is how most people relate to their income. However, this way everything is upside down.

You approach a promotion like going to war and feel deflated after receiving it because the next one is now a long way off. You get reinforced for being unhappy.

When you shift into doing what comes naturally, your whole world, including your relationship with income, changes. One of the challenges becomes charging for your work.

That’s because you are now charging for who you are. What is that worth? Your personal identity is at stake and your true self cannot be costed.

You can use market-based pricing for similar services as a guide and pitch yourself on the scale relative to others. You can use your experience and brand reputation as benchmarks, or you can develop a value-based measure.

Still, it may not feel right to you. In the last 13 years, I have never felt comforable setting my rates. On the one hand, my work feels priceless. On the other, I’ll happily do it for free.

So I am trying a new arrangement where I only do work that has a heart for me, work that I find intrinsically rewarding and I will leave my other passions for. I invest in relationships and projects without attachment to money and let it fall into place as we go.

It takes some courage and trust. It seems to be taking me and the people I work with into a new place of sincerity and honesty, where we do business in a more conscious way.

Being paid for what you love is an awakening.

Friday, 31 October 2008

Self Promotion

When you are in your own business or a soloist, branding and self promotion are intrinsic to your endeavours.

Looked at with too much deliberation, these can feel daunting. Done with a sense of humour and adventure, they can become a most creative form of self-expression. It can be so rewarding to get yourself out there and see the results.

The term ‘self-promotion’ has an egotistical ring to it, so don’t see it that way. Focus on who you are, what you love, what you want to share and the people who respond to your message. You will end up promoting yourself extensively in an authentic and graceful way.

Since the release of my book INSIGHTS in November 2007, I have had the joy of promoting, publicising and marketing it. A book is newsworthy, so it gives you an angle with which to approach the media and have your say in them.

The joy for me has been in doing so without attachment. I don’t expect anything from anyone and have put myself under no pressure to make anything of the book. It’s pure fun, the kind I love.

I wait until I am in the mood to speak to people about my book and business and act on my PR list then. I don’t make it into a job, I let it be what I really want to do.

I respond immediately to an idea when it comes to me, like when I’m driving or reading and I think of a radio station or editor or publication to approach. When someone makes a suggestion and it lights me up, I act on it.

If you look back over the last year, I have probably put in just 2-4 hours of work a week into book promotion and the benefits have been remarkable.

It has built my personal and business brands enormously, and done the book justice. INSIGHTS has received about 30 exposures in magazines, newspapers and on radio and television so far, and, with my enthusiastic yet serene support, they are still coming thick and fast.

So, take the pressure off and put yourself out there, how and when you feel like it, just the way you are.

Tuesday, 28 October 2008

The Global Economy and The Law Of Attraction

A reader asked me to comment on the law of attraction and how it might relate to the global economy, so here are my thoughts.

I have watched The Secret a few times and encountered its message in various places over the years. It gives you a warm feeling and does tap into something fundamental and part of the way things work in the universe.

The sense that we attract into being what we attend to with feeling rings true. We are essentially creative beings, whether we are aware of and deliberate about it or not. It’s not the whole picture by any means but it is part of it.

So how does this relate to the current global economic and systemic collapse?

First, we have brought on what is happening. We have attracted it with fear. The collective consciousness is largely fear based and the way we conduct ourselves economically and otherwise is based on avoiding our fears of not enough. Of course, we thus induce them.

A minute minority manipulating the markets for grotesque individual gain at the expense of the whole is not a trusting and connected way to live. Everyone else taking their place in the power structure isn’t either. Greed and subtle slavery are two sides of the same coin, the one currently being flushed down the toilet.

In terms of sorting things out, I don’t feel the law of attraction has much value. It is based on bringing about what we want and is, in that way, quite infantile. The obsession in people development circles and the world generally with getting what we want is outdated and the root of the problems we now have.

If we are aware of what we really want, not a mass of desires but a state of harmonious well being, then maybe we can use the law of attraction to bring it about. But we are much more likely to confuse our desires for what we really want and bring about more unbalanced living.

What we really want is already here. It is our true nature. We need to settle into it, disentangle ourselves from the world we have created from fear and wanting and identifying with the ego and its images, and find our formless selves.

From here balance will restore itself and we can begin to live intelligently.