Friction

When you are at war with yourself, it generates a friction within you, which is reflected outwards in circumstantial conflict.

The inner friction and outer conflict waste your energy. And you need that energy.

You need energy to change and grow. Just to see things as they really are, you need tremendous resources. In fact, you need all of your attention in the here and now. You need to be total. That brings transformation.

Life as we have known it in human history has split us within ourselves. We have not been allowed by society to be who we are, and to grow into our potential. We have had our authenticity ignored and invalidated, and a host of ideals imposed on us.

So we have never tasted what it is to be natural. We haven't even begun to bloom. We are against ourselves, which uses up and wastes almost all of our life force.

To regain access to our energy, we need to see and accept ourselves as we are, the good, the bad, and the ugly. We need to observe the beautiful and brutal within us, with no judgement, no preconceptions, and no avoidance.

Our full attention needs to be brought into the present, and the light of this awareness needs to be shone into our being in one total act of seeing. No time delay, no thinking, no analysing. No steps or sequence. Complete clarity in an instant.

Only this way can we move from the energy-sapping ego to a state of insight. We go suddenly from split to whole. We move from being wasted to being integrated. Here, a new energy can be felt.

This fresh resourcefulness is our natural state that we have lost touch with. Reconnection results in freedom from conditioning and psychological bondage.

It aligns us with the greater intelligence, dissolving the separate self and mobilising the flow of unifying energy.

This energy, we can call love. We can call it truth. It is live-wire awareness, a state of unclouded consciousness. In it, we begin to function as we are intended to.

Internal friction is gone, so outer conflict cannot continue. Energy is no longer lost, so we are no longer empty. Cleaned out by total clarity, we are at home in ourselves. Finally, we feel full, brimming with essence.

We are no longer separate selves. Just the whole remains. And with that, intelligent living ensues.

Friction-free, we come to be.

You

You are part animal, part human. The animal is your history, the human is your potential. We are all in an internal struggle between the two, and this inner conflict is manifest all around us.

We are both base-level beasts and beauty from the beyond. Within us and around us, there is brutality and divinity.

The dissolution of this conflict lies in the individual, in you and me. We want to shed our animal heritage, because it isn't working for us and the world, plus we know what we hold within.

We know we are one with all existence. We know we are filled with love and joy. We want to get on with ourselves and one another, and share our humanity. We dream of it, long for it. We are aching with affection, bursting with light.

But we are still fighting, with ourselves and one another, openly and subversively. We are racked with rage, caged by guilt, and inhibited by instinct. So we pretend to be good while acting badly, living as hypocrites, hurting and betraying ourselves and each other in a state of masked anguish. It happens in our hearts, our homes, our businesses, and our politics.

The stakes have got so high now that we can take no more. The cracks are chasms, gaping gorges. Leaders are liars, systems are crimes, and the planet is a ball of pain. It is also a glowing orb of possibility. Each of us can relate to how it feels. You can relate.

Never before has the need been more urgent to live our potential. Never before has the inner anguish been more pressing, and the outer situation more obvious. Never before have we been turned in on ourselves with such ruthlessness. Never before have we been violated to such a degree by the powers that be.

It is time to harmonise ourselves as individuals and become whole. We are each responsible for our consciousness. The outer will continue to reflect the inner, so the world will heal with our awakening. You can feel it happening. Everything is pushing you into your core, your truth.

Scientists can discover and explain the mechanical workings of life. Poets can open the chambers of you heart and lead you in. Mystics can clear the cobwebs and show you the way to the light. But only you know.

You know.

Situations

It can feel, at times, like you are lost in the deepest darkness, making your way who knows where through the thickest fog.

The ground beneath your shaking feet is shifting. You are emotionally overwhelmed and entangled in externals that draw you away from yourself.

Just to know where to step next, you have to find yourself first. Everything depends on you knowing who you are so that you can proceed. You are searching.

You have always been searching, one way or another. Choosing to believe in a religion or a political leader is an easy way out, a pretence. It gives you a false sense of security, which means you can go off to other pursuits, to do well in the world.

But deep down, you are still searching and you know it. Believing is not going to help. Only awakening in your own right will make a real difference. You will continue to search until you do that.

Sometimes the search will seem to overcome you. It's as if every false form of security forsakes you. The subliminal quest becomes central and, intentionally or not, you become consumed by it.

That is when you are feeling your way through the fog. Then, your lifetime of effort seems to be in the balance. Everything is culminating, cresting and crumbling.

Moments move from meaningless to momentous, from destitute to divine. Slowly you make profound progress.

In the context of all this tension, situations arise that shift you. All your searching has prepared you and an insight happens. Then another.

Your being quakes into place. Some circumstance synchronises with your state, and you jolt into awakening. You see where you are and who you are in an instant. Everything has been your preparation.

The situation galvanises you. Maybe someone suitable gives you a push. You learn to fly.

You remember who you are.

Waking up

You know that feeling when you have had too little sleep and are woken by your alarm, when you just want to go back into dreamland.

The noise draws you out of unconsciousness just enough to shut the trouble off, and then you disappear again into slumber.

But you know you have to get up. There is something important to do, something essential, and you must move from sleep to sobriety. You feel the strong pull back into the warm comfort of unconsciousness, as well as the other attraction into the light of day.

Maybe for a while, with a few minutes to spare, you sleep a little longer, risking not waking up in time. And then, perhaps after repeated hits on the snooze button, you begin to choose consciousness.

The benefits of waking up become clear, and you select, in that moment, to steer yourself towards consciousness.

On the whole, we live in a deep sleep, and we are on the path of waking up. We love the comfort of unconsciousness, where we needn't be responsible and can cling to our dreams. There they mean the world to us.

We sense that there is a real world waiting out there, but we want just a little more slumber. We will fight for it. We will sacrifice our lives to stay asleep. Yet we want to wake up and live.

Most of us are on the cusp, making this choice moment by moment. We are in a darkened room still, but we know the sun is shining outside. We have seen it, tasted it. We have felt the freshness.

Just as you make that choice in bed, on the brink of a new day, so you can choose to awaken your whole being.

The sleepiness of socialisation is seductive but expensive, and less and less appealing. The lucidity of awakened being is a transformation, a new life. You can, with enough awareness, distinguish between the two.

Compromise calls like a heavy comfort blanket; consciousness calls like a clear day.

Gently yet certainly, shift into the sunshine.

Change

There is only one way you can change your life and that is through consciousness. There is no other change, everything else is more of the same.

You can move one thing from here to there, which may appear, at least at first, to look and feel different. It may bring a little more comfort or efficiency, or perhaps a perceived decrease in something negative.

You may choose a direction or set a goal, and then set about achieving it, which may make you seem happier or more driven. But that does not change you. It merely distracts you, and sets up another cycle of strife.

Change is not something you do, it happens. And it happens through awareness.

With being awake comes automatic and natural increases in intelligence. The word for it is transformation. Change means more or less of the known. Transformation is from the beyond.

With change, you remain the doer, the ego, just fooling yourself with your own tricks. With transformation, you are less and less separate, more and more integrated. You are your being beyond the self.

Transformation is awakening. What changes is your bubble of awareness, your understanding, your world view. Everything else, like your behaviour and relationships, evolve as a natural consequence.

You do not need to change them, they simply cannot remain those that they were, those of a less conscious person.

So all your attention needs simply to be centred in awakening to the now.

Love

Watch yourself as you go into love. Watch yourself.

Love blinds you, sweeps you into a sort of slumber, so stay awake. Love itself is wild and beyond control. Observe as it arises and takes you with it.

Do not tumble into it and fall, as, at some stage, you will have to get back out of it and up again. You have had this happen over and over. Watch this time. Stay a witness. Do not fall in love, let it take you up.

Do not lose respect for yourself or lose touch with your mindfulness. Your presence and impeccability are your responsibility, your hard-earned realisation of who you are. Stay with them.

Then you will not lose yourself in love but bring yourself to it. You will not get lost in love but be found. Yes, you will disappear in its depths, merging more and more with its magic and mysteries, but you will stay centred. It will add to your presence. You will really know what love is.

Watch yourself. Associated with love itself are many murky memories and unconscious catches. You have been badly bruised before and may easily flinch.

You have inherited cages from your parents and ancestors, assumptions and patterns that they lived with, struggled through, and inherited themselves. Watch.

Your insecurities will arise and you will want to blame the other. Yes, watch.

You have been born into an unconscious society where love is misunderstood and misrepresented. The marketing can mislead you. The socialised associations with love can cost you.

Stay with yourself. See the difference between the real and the rubbish.

Relish reality, release fantasy. Relieve yourself and others of the painful partition between expectation and experience. Let experience awaken you, let expectation go.

Let the gap close between what you see and what is. Let love bring you together, integrate you further, help make you whole. Let yourself and the other be. Stay mindful and meditative all the way. Watch.

Love can be the cream of your consciousness.

This Too Shall Pass

The famous saying, 'This too shall pass', is generally used to console someone or oneself during times of distress. Taken at its superficial meaning, and manipulated to suit one's needs, it means, 'Don't worry, things will get better soon'.

This can be comforting but it misses the true meaning of the saying, plus it makes little if any use of the moment.

'This too shall pass' applies to everything. Good times are just as transient as difficult ones.

If you are the type of person who clings to clichés, you probably have more negative experiences than positive, because you have not yet awoken to how life is. You are still stuck in duality where you run from one experiential pole, and hanker for the other.

You are still a victim of ego-based existence and have only had the occasional taste of transcendence. At best, you have a kind of empty pleasure, with pain always nipping at your heels.

The famous saying actually means that everything soon shall pass. Wake up to what is eternal! Don't depend on external factors as much as you do your inner connection with your being.

Get into the part of yourself that does not go up and down or swing left then right. Understand how life works and watch it with mindful awareness. Everything shall pass but awareness keeps watching.

Your whole life soon shall pass. Are you wishing it away? We need both sides of experience to make sense of being alive. Are you missing the big picture?

When you can say 'This too shall pass' during a happy moment, you are starting to grow up. When you can say it during a distressing time and not wish that time away, you are starting to find your way into the now.

Ecstasy and agony both come and go. When you use experiences of either to bring yourself into the moment, you are making the most of duality by transmuting it into eternity. You are employing the transient to access the transcendent.

'This too shall pass', like everything, should take you deeper into presence.

Head and Heart

Are you talking yourself into what you really want, or out of it?

Do you know what you really want? Perhaps, at least, you are being nudged towards it.

Is circumstance seeming to push you out of one way of living or into another? Do you carry an unlived life around within you?

Are you full of frustration, even grief and rage at the choices you are making? Or are you just numb?

Do you know what you really want? Have you even considered what that is outside of all you have been raised to do and pretend to be?

Are you living a connected or a conditioned life?

What you really want is simple and associated with what your heart tells you. Can you access what that is?

Can you detect the difference between your head and your heart?

Your head is full of what everyone else thinks and says. It has a notion of right and wrong, plausible and impossible, desirable and unacceptable. It is probably in control.

Even when you access your heart, your head is difficult to overcome. It can talk you out of almost anything. It analyses and paralyses. As a tool, it is useful, when you know what you want. For that, though, you need your heart.

Your heart is closer to who you are. It cannot lie or confuse. It knows the way and doesn't bother about details, because those work themselves out. You can use your head for them, once you have found direction. Until you have done that, your head is a problem.

Your head is your inner dialogue. Your heart is your guide. What you really want is seeded inside you and entirely plausible. You may be using your thinking to materialise or suppress it. Your thinking may be using you.

When your head serves your heart, you shift into gear.

Rejuvenation

The single source of real rejuvenation is nothingness.

Just a small taste of that during sleep each night refreshes our consciousness. Without it, the world is a dark place. With regular contact, the world becomes beautiful.

We understand ourselves as a conglomerate of complexities: personality, memory, aspiration, mind and body. These are all tensions, struggles, things, that occupy our energies all day.

Every night, we return to source, or should do, to rediscover ourselves in our essence.

At first, before falling asleep, we need to stop doing and let being take over. Then sleep comes of its own accord. You cannot make yourself sleep, it is a state of passivity. You allow it and it swallows you. You stop and it starts.

Then, as it takes over, you disappear further and deeper into it. Each layer you descend through leaves less of you. The mind, still active in dreams, eventually drops, too, until all of what constitutes you is absent. No more personality, thinking or tension. Just nothingness, a reconnection with source.

In a full night's sleep, this happens only for a short time, and, with our modern lifestyles, not nearly as much as we need it to. When we don't it get enough, we feel as if we haven't even slept. We may wake up more tired than when we laid down.

When we do commune sufficiently with absolute stillness, we wake up feeling vital. We live quality lives. Time out of ourselves brings us back with essential energy.

The other way to integrate with nothingness is through meditation. This does not imply any particular practice, posture or penance, just presence. It can come through sitting or lying still, being in nature, exercising, being creative, or doing your work mindfully.

Anything that silences the mind, takes you inwards, and brings a feeling of time standing still is meditative.

The difference between meditation and sleep is that in meditation you are conscious. In deep sleep, you are not there but you are not aware of it. In meditation, all the layers have fallen away, and you have disappeared, but awareness remains, crystal clear, unclouded.

Meditation rejuvenates too, and, combined with sound sleep, reveals what life really is. In time, the tensions lose their grip and blissfulness surrounds you as you go about your business.

Connecting with nothingness brings happy resourcefulness.

Arguing

Who argues?

Unhappy people with a bee in their bonnet. Arrogant people who want to prove their importance. Ignorant people who don't know better. Partners in a power struggle.

When you are aware and awake, you are not going to argue.

What is there to argue about? If you know something, you will listen or share but not defend or impose. If you don't know, you will discover.

You will not be attached to your position, because knowing needs no attachment, and not knowing needs openness. The other may help but cannot hinder.

Who is there to argue with? Someone who knows when you don't will supply you with insight. Someone who does not know will either be receptive to your sharing or insistent on their ignorance.

Someone who thinks they know when they don't will be a pointless pursuit. And someone who knows as well as you do will commune with you in silence or stillness, a joyful resonance.

Some people define themselves by arguing: drama-addicted lovers, power-hungry parents, philosophers, politicians. Children.

They strengthen their egos in the name of love or intelligent debate. Or childishness. They use beautiful words to conceal their ugliness. Or simply don't know better.

You may feel somehow left out of their self-important endeavours, and drawn to get involved. But there is no need to be insecure or to argue.

What is to be gained by arguing? Tension, sharpened cunningness, and false victories. Ruined relationships and reputation.

Argument-free is the way to be.

Baggage

In your house, you have all your comforts. You are surrounded by stuff.

You take ownership of it and, in strong and subtle ways, you carry it with you. In fact, you are possessed by it.

In owning, you are owned. With baggage, you are not free.

When you go on holiday, you cannot take your whole house and all your belongings with you. So you simplify. You select and then carry only what you regard as essentials.

As a seasoned traveler, those perceived necessities are far fewer than for a less secure or experienced adventurer. You can get by with very little. Even as an indulgent person, you accept relative frugality when you go on holiday.

While away, when you go to the beach, you select from your already distilled possessions just what you feel you need for the day. Now you are down to a small bag, to minimal baggage. You are wearing very little, carrying very little, needing very little, and feeling quite free.

Then when you go for a swim in the sea, you leave almost everything behind. Your shelter, car, gadgets and money are not needed. They are a hindrance. All you have on you is perhaps some skimpy clothing, which is really just for your walk to and from the water. Inside the sea, you need nothing.

In the ocean, you need only to breathe. You are reduced to your most basic. It is like being back in the womb. You can remove even your swimming costume and enjoy total freedom. Your baggage has been dropped, left behind. Step by step, you have shed the burdens that bind you, and found nakedness.

Floating on your back with you eyes closed, you hear only your breath coming in and going out.

Here, you are clear. Even your thoughts leave you eventually and you become true.

As a drop in the ocean, you start to see that you are one with it. Looking up, you sense that you are the sky as well.

Suspended, you are the whole of existence. Breathing, you are infinitely blessed.

Without baggage, you are yourself.

Update

Dear readers of my blog

This is a quick update so that you do not think that I have disappeared or stopped writing.

I was away on holiday recently and I have taken a break from what has been my usual style of writing for the last few years. Hence, no blog posts for a while.

I am actively not writing the way I was doing, as I feel like a change. Who knows where that will lead, but it will be for the better. Whatever happens next will be new.

My energies have, as a result, been invested into other areas of my overall endeavour, including my new book, DEEPER INSIGHTS, which will be out in October 2010. Certain posts from this blog appear in it, with a whole lot more. So look out for that ...

The first book in the series, INSIGHTS, will be re-issued at the same time with a new cover to fit with the other two, so look out for that, too.

And look out for something new here soon. I will be back.

Robin :-)

Payback

Just try to reimburse the universe for all you feel blessed about ...

It is a hopeless endeavour. The more grateful you are, the more you get bestowed with, and the more priceless it all is.

Any gesture to try to express your appreciation results in such generosity from existence that you are powerless to contain yourself!

Try to say thank you from your heart and you will burst with love. Try to reciprocate for what you have received and you will have to evaporate just to cope with the influx of affection.

The old you will have to dissolve into the flood of the new. You will have to give way until there is just joy.

Trying to repay life will cost you your self.

Relationships

When you find yourself centred, and find the knack for staying so, and are able more consistently to return to being so whenever there's drift, your relationships change. You and how you relate both change.

When you are connected consciously to the centre of all things, you cannot lose yourself in the realms of ego.

You can have ego and work with it - which is simply to be present - like you have a body, but you are beyond it. You are watching.

Ego is a psychological body, and you are watching.

So when two egos collide, when you have relationships, you watch. You engage while you watch.

You sometimes lose yourself in the engaging and then rediscover the watcher, and that's how you grow. You grow into yourself, into your centre, which is the centre of all things. There is only one centre. And from here, you grow in relationship.

When you are lost in identification with ego and, in relationship, you are locked in a dynamic, you will usually spiral further out of control until you disengage.

Then you wrestle and wrangle in ego for ages before it runs its course and calms down. Then you start to see. Back in a centred space, you re-encounter grace.

When you live in grace, when you are increasingly centred, you relate as yourself, not the self lost in relationship.

The centre takes the circumference new places.

Enriching

Is it enriching to know you?

Do people skip your status updates on social networking websites or are they drawn to them?

Is your brand magnetic? Is there something of the ultimate coming through you from the beyond?

The way to be really enriching is, of course, to be yourself. There can be nothing lacking in who you are. That’s how you were created; unique and entirely required as such.

Great effort since has gone into standardising you, but your spirit endures and your individuality prevails. Getting past your conditioning, being creative, following your inner knowing, and being present bring your wealth to the world.

With awareness, you can distinguish between the constructed you and the real one, and choose the wiser.

Through creativity, you express, clear, give and contribute. You also keep up with life and find the moment.

Learning to listen to the voice within you, the powerful whisper of truth, leads you into the mystery and lets it speak through you.

Another way to be enriching is to grow. Always be growing, passively. Allow it to happen.

Nothing you could conjure as a separate self, as an ego, will compare to the realms of awakened consciousness. This surrendering is active, though, a great growing, a logarithmic learning. It’s a trip! It is love.

Grow in love. Grow deeper and higher. Stay centred.

Lose it and rediscover it anew. Go off the rails and realise that you cannot do so.

Live! Be yourself for a living. Explore your talents. Immerse yourself in what seduces you. Romance life in return.

Don’t settle for even the very best if it isn’t good enough for you. Travel the world out there and within. And, wherever that takes you, go in the now.

To be enriching, be enriched.

Fixating

What are you fixating on?

Is it something negative and stuck, a perceived problem?

Of course it is! Preoccupation and problems go together. Struggles are little illusions endeavouring always to come between you and the vast vista of freedom.

Watch yourself. We are so often either engrossed in troubled pursuits or at least distracted by the temptation to invest in them.

Tensions present themselves continuously, trying to take us away from a sense of well being. They cannot exist, though, without our attention. And we cannot be ourselves while fixating on them.

You are not a troubled state of consciousness. You are the boundless sky, the infinite.

So if you are feeling uptight, even in the slightest way, you are identified with something that is not you. You think you are the clouds, the thoughts, because you have lost touch with your freedom.

It is the mind that fixates, and you are not your mind. You are what watches, unfazed yet infinitely enthused. You are openness.

One of the ways to get unstuck is to find your fixation. What are you fixating on? What are you chewing over and over?

When you climb into the shower, are you consumed by your mind or are you relaxed and alert, in the moment? Can you celebrate the water and let life love you? Or are you gnawing on some nonsense in your head at the expense of what’s real?

Your mind will always be occupied with problems. In the absence of problems, mind falls away. In the absence of mind, problems fall away. You are either pedalling to keep your mind moving or you are watching.

Whenever you find yourself fixated, let the clouds go and restore the sky.

Frustration

Frustration is a function of modern life.

Corporations create a need with their marketing, sell you something manufactured for profit not purpose, and when you try to deal with their after sales service, you may as well run repeatedly into a brick wall.

They are everywhere, behind everything, giving us all the same experience. They say one thing and live another. It’s insane and so frustrating.

Their basic services do not work properly and are enormously over priced. Their systems are geared to keep their customers powerless. Just think of your mobile phone network, their profits and their call centres.

Their branding gives you one impression and behind the scenes things are very different. Just think of the logos and marketing messages for petroleum companies and then consider their earth-ravaging methods.

Things are made to go one way and the holistic implications are ignored and denied. So-called leaders fight off the consequences for a while and, in no time, everyone is swept again in the spiralling wave of further frustration.

Then there are the media, the traffic, and the noise levels we live with. Add to that the challenges of relationships, raising children, earning a living and finding time for yourself.

It’s miraculous that we maintain a modicum of anything other than molten madness.

Frustration is a function of modern life, but it is also a habit and a choice. It is a consequence and cause of unconsciousness. It is a form of ego, a negative emotion. It is an opportunity to wake up.

No matter who is doing what, no matter how you are bombarded or coerced, no matter how schizophrenic the scenario, you can be cool.

Catch yourself feeling frustrated and bring yourself back to well being.

Branding

I am using the word ‘branding’ in the same way as one would use the word ‘being’.

Your branding is like your being: It’s a living thing. It thrives in the present. It is organic and it lives alongside you, through you, with you.

It has a consciousness. It works with the collective consciousness. It has a business value but it is beyond that.

It is what you love and what you have built, a momentum you have helped generate. It is energy. It is relationship. It is service.

It is responsibility. It is creativity. Your branding is your vehicle in the world, the link between who you are and what you do. It is a bridge. It is your business.

Your branding lives and can die any moment. It will eventually die, nothing lives forever.

It is as fragile as a breath yet as robust as the present moment. It is, therefore, pointless if you want permanence but perfect if you choose life.

Your branding is the business form your being takes. All your equity is contained, and all your energy hovers and moves in it. It is the most wondrous experience when you come to terms with that.

Your branding is your ultimate creative expression and your ultimate contribution to humanity. It forms your legacy.

When you come to terms with your branding, you give it your best in your most sober and insightful way. And, your best keeps growing through your branding and your developing relationship with your business.

Branding is poetry in motion. It is power. If lived well, it is wealth.

It is where the ethereal meets the practical. It is how you be yourself for a living.

Brand in hand, engage the land.

Opportunities

I often get wrong number calls on my landline. There’s a convent up the road that shares my digits except for one, which, in my case, occurs twice more in the number.

So, for that reason, I assume, people call me instead of the nunnery. Unless there’s another reason, like the sense of humour life has.

Sometimes people recognise, as they work things out, that I have helped them by giving them the right number, and they thank me and even apologise for the inconvenience.

Other times, they just put the phone down or thank me without acknowledging my side of the encounter. Occasionally, they are open and accessible, and a short conversation ensues. It’s nice to meet nice strangers!

Sometimes I am in a good space and other times I am less so. So my approach varies. But, to a large degree, the person on the other end determines my feelings.

Someone I have a momentary and anonymous encounter with determines my behaviour. Well, that’s no good! It’s normal and human, I know, but I can make more of it than treating it like an irritating occurrence.

I don’t mind the calls, let me just say that. They are hardly an issue, but they do happen often, and they do draw my attention to my state of consciousness. So I can use them as an opportunity to awaken.

What state am I in when the world encounters me? What is my inner being like regardless of the outside?

What energies am I enjoying and bringing to bear? How much space in myself am I providing for happiness and presence?

The story of your life circumstance can run away with you, or you can take each opportunity to be who you are.

Answers

The answer to everything is to live.

How do you succeed in business? You provide people with something they need and want and benefit from, by doing what you love. You do well in life by being of service, and, to do that, you need to live.

You need to experience and actualise for yourself so that you can relate to others and help them. Helping people in your unique way is what makes you come alive. So you need to live to give, and giving becomes your living.

How do you provide optimally for your children so that they get the very best in life? You do whatever you wish for them, for yourself.

Just wishing it for them won’t help, it is more likely to hinder. And trying to give it to them without living it will also be destructive because you will be preaching but not practicing.

Kick open the door and live your ideal life to the full, that will automatically give your kids what you wish for them. They learn from who you are, not what you say, so be yourself for a living.

How do you achieve sustained happiness? You live! Then happiness finds you because you are not resisting or avoiding life. You and the moment are always in communion, so happiness is unhindered.

How do you solve life’s problems? If you are truly living, there are no problems. Life is everything in itself.

Problems exist only in the mind, and you don’t live in the mind, you live on all levels, in the now. There can be no problems in the now. There is living mystery and no linearity.

How do you die? The same way that you live. How do you find answers? How do realise that there are no questions?

Living is what you are here for.